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Spilker Funeral Home

815 Washington Street · Cape May, NJ 08204

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Veteran services at Spilker Funeral Home

Spilker Funeral Home is a funeral home in Cape May, NJ that accepts veteran families and provides military funeral honors coordination through the Department of Defense honors program.

The nearest VA national cemetery is Delaware Veterans Memorial Cemetery - Sussex County in DE, approximately 33 miles from Spilker Funeral Home. Spilker Funeral Home can coordinate transport, scheduling with the cemetery's interment office, and the timing of military honors with the receiving committal shelter.

Spilker Funeral Home holds a 5.0-star rating from 25 Google reviews, indicating consistent service quality reported by families who have used the home for veteran and non-veteran services alike.

What families have said

Recent reviews from families who used Spilker Funeral Home. Reviews are sourced from Google Places and shown verbatim — we do not edit or filter for sentiment.

I can't begin to say how grateful and happy I am with having found the Spilker Funeral Home for my Father's memorial service. From the first phone call I had with Dennis Spilker, I knew already that this was going to be the right place. Dennis was beyond a true professional. He is a kind, sincere, and honest individual who not only treated every detail with delicate care and precision, but he took the time to get to know about my Father, the life he lived, the person he was, and how I envisioned his memorial service to be. I was deeply touched by this and will never forget how emotional of an impression Dennis made on me. A special thanks also to Kevin Beare, who created a masterful photo/video tribute of my Father. Your creativity and expertise are outstanding. The funeral home itself has such a rich and unique history, it's architecture is beautiful and the floorspace inside is generous. The entire experience was perfect. I highly recommend you book with Spilker Funeral Home.
Andrew Angelin★★★★★4 years agoVet-related
Dennis and his team were wonderful. Our family member passed at home. They took great care to take him out of the home with dignity and allowed us to say our final goodbyes. Dennis made planning the service easy. They did a lovely video using photos we sent them. It was so comforting to look up during the viewing and see those pictures. He was such a comfort during a very difficult time. Thank you!!
Janet Williams★★★★★3 years agoVet-related
I highly recommend Spilker Funeral Home of Cape May, New Jersey. The winter of 2020 was catastrophic for my family. While visiting my parents in Massachusetts, I had a traumatic accident. Two days later, my beloved mother suffered a major stroke. During my mom’s hospice care, I contacted Dennis Spilker. Dennis empathized with how terrible my situation was. He was generous with his time and was always available to answer my questions, day or night. Dennis patiently listened to me and never rushed me off the phone. I was transported back to New Jersey for surgery and then my mother passed away. I was injured and stricken with grief. Dennis organized careful transport of my mom’s body and was generous with updates. I was overwhelmed with my physical situation and the travel arrangements for my grieving, disabled father. My injuries delayed the funeral by over a week, which added to my father’s devastation. My father sent a rose to the funeral home. Dennis placed it with my mom and promptly sent a reassuring photo to my father. Dennis has so much sensitivity, insight, and respect for the process of losing a loved one. He expertly steered me through the viewing, service, and burial preparations to prevent any timing and financial issues. When I ran into difficulties planning the repast, Dennis helped me find an appropriate and affordable venue. His guidance helped to keep me calm as I balanced my mom’s death with my injuries and grieving father. I wanted my mother’s hair and make-up to look natural. Dennis thoughtfully listened to my descriptions and undoubtedly studied the sample photos I provided. His attention to detail was impeccable. My mom looked beautiful, despite the delay. Every detail of my Mother's service was done with great consideration. Dennis was compassionate about our unusual situation and accommodated us for a late-night, private viewing. Spilker Funeral Home is located in an impressively restored Victorian building with stained glass windows and beautiful woodwork. This inviting, clean, and peaceful setting allowed me to focus on my mother. I cannot put into words the appreciation we have for the exceptional service provided by the staff at Spilker Funeral Home. Everyone, including the limo driver, ushers, and pall bearers, were all professional and kind, which enabled my mother to receive a proper farewell. Dennis Spilker, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Pierina★★★★★5 years agoVet-related
My family has lost two significant people within a year's time, and Dennis has been there for us from start to finish. He is an immensely empathetic person, and knows when to offer his emotional support and how to handle situations and responsibilities that people typically shy from. He is immeasurably professional, a great listener, and is fantastic at his job. The Spilker home facilities are beautiful, and his staff is kind and conscientious. In difficult situations, Dennis and his team are the people to whom you should turn.
Patrick Personal Miller★★★★★7 years ago
Working with Dennis was a blessing in a very difficult time in our lives. He took care of all arrangements quickly, with precision, and with great care. We are very thankful to have worked with him and cannot recommend the Spilker Funeral Home enough
Kristen Ritter★★★★★4 years ago

EverSettled · After the Veteran Funeral

The veteran's spouse may qualify for VA Dependency & Indemnity Compensation.

DIC is a tax-free monthly benefit for surviving spouses, dependent children, and (in some cases) parents of veterans whose death is service-connected. EverSettled walks veteran families through DIC eligibility, survivor pension, life-insurance claims, probate, and the federal-account paperwork that follows.

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How honors are coordinated

Military funeral honors are guaranteed at no cost for any veteran discharged under conditions other than dishonorable. The funeral home arranges the honors detail by contacting the deceased's last unit or the nearest active-duty installation of the appropriate branch and submitting the DD-214 to verify eligibility.

For requests less than 72 hours from service time, families can call the Department of Defense's expedited honors line at 1-877-MIL-HONR (1-877-645-4667). See the full honors protocol.

After the Service · Veteran Family

Estate settlement is the next chapter for veteran families.

DIC, survivor pension, and VA educational benefits run alongside probate, life-insurance claims, and account retitling. EverSettled guides veteran families through every step at no cost.

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